Plagiarism and Self-acceptance


COPYRIGHT NOTICE: People of honor need no copyright laws; they are only too happy to give credit where credit is due. Others will ignore copyright laws whenever they please. If you are of the latter, please note what Moses said about dishonourable behaviour: “be sure your sin will find you out” (Numbers 32:23) ~ written By Ed Hurst 27 February 2007.

Plagiarism is an emotive topic; there is a petition to put pressure on UK government to Stop Legalised Theft of Copyrighted Works

My first blog post for the Living Big community back in 2012, was all about plagiarism, I am a bit of a ‘copy and paste merchant’ sharing pictures & quotes on ‘The book’ (my affectionate term for facebook). I am generous by nature and I share information that I find inspiring, motivating and funny, things that make me smile. I am an avid student of natural depression cures and know that when I give I receive.

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My aim in life is to identify the POSITIVE which lifts people’s spirits. Fastest way to a happy mood is to SMILE – go on I bet you got teeth in there. (The first time I heard Joseph McClendon III say ‘Go on, smile, I bet you got teeth in there’ I laughed out loud)  Smiling is such a simple infectious, easy and powerful thing to practice daily. Other great reasons to SMILE:-

Smiling releases hormones that make you feel better.

“A smile confuses an approaching frown.” ~ Author Unknown.

“People fall in love by smiling at each other, but people stay in love by laughing with each other.” ~ Unknown.

“Don’t cry because it’s over. Smile because it happened.” ~ Dr. Seuss.

“Never frown, even when you are sad, because you never know who is falling in love with your smile.” ~ Unknown.

“Always remember to be happy because you never know who’s falling in love with your smile. … If you don’t have a smile, I’ll give you one of mine.” ~ Unknown.

When I was trying to find the authors for the smile quotes the Best Answer – Chosen by Voters was:-

‘Google lists 213,000 hits on this topic. I suggest that you do the research yourself. I would not have believed that anyone would have own up to having said anything that sappy.’

I think that statement says exactly what is sad about the way people connect, to think that its sappy to smile and be happy is one of the problems with UK society, that if people choose the happy world then they are considered soft, sappy. People get sympathy when they are miserable and negative and it’s somehow more socially acceptable to be downbeat than upbeat. No wonder we have record numbers of depressed people if they choose to focus on what’s wrong rather than what they could be grateful for. Sharing a smile is a free way to lift a depressed mood.

‘If you’re looking for sympathy, you’ll find it in the dictionary between shit and syphilis’ – Bruce Roantree

Laughter is the best medicine. Laughter is a powerful antidote to stress, pain, and conflict. Nothing works faster or more dependably to bring your mind and body back into balance than a good laugh. Humour lightens your burdens, inspires hopes, connects you to others, and keeps you grounded, focused, and alert.

Each and every emotion we experience is the result of the release of certain hormones inside our bodies. Some hormones are responsible for making us feel good; some are responsible for making us feel bad. Unless you deal with the root cause of your problems your happiness won’t last for prolonged periods. The feelings we experience are nothing more than chemical reactions taking place inside our bodies. So why not choose a life that creates happy chemicals?

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Back to my topic: Most cases of plagiarism can be avoided, by citing sources. Simply acknowledging that certain material has been borrowed, and providing your audience with the information necessary to find that source:

I feel guilty if I reference incorrectly or if I have forgotten the source (Note to self: When would now be a good time to get rid of guilt).

Where ever possible I credit the source, although sometimes I forget where I heard something, we are all human and learning patience and to slow down is something I am working on, so if in my haste to share I forget to credit someone then I accept responsibility and apologise.

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I am used to referencing when I deliver training and in the corporate training world it is sacrilege not to credit your sources. However, I have learned that when I caveat my words with ‘so and so author says…’ it sometimes confuses people or they put a paradigm of meaning over the top of my words and ‘hear’ what their own beliefs and experiences dictate about that author.

Ian Young who kindly put me in touch with the wonderful Living Big community, teaches that the only way to stop taking drugs is to stop taking drugs, this is a beautifully simple and powerful statement about free will and choice; in life we all do not need to over-complicate or be over significant about the choices we make. Life’s challenges do not have to be complicated and yet when I get myself tied up in knots making sure I reference things correctly I sometimes lose my train of thought and the loving intent of my message gets lost. (Note to self: When would now be a good time to get rid of perfection?)


Abraham Lincoln (February 12, 1809 – April 15, 1865) when I first saw this picture I laughed out loud the Internet began with the development of electronic computers in the 1950s!

Joking aside we all have to be careful when clicking on the internet, recently I renewed my passport and I honestly believed I was on the passport office web site, when in fact it was a business set up who charge for the renewal form, a form that is freely available at the post office, because my car tax was so easy to renew on line I genuinely thought the passport site I was on was the official passport web site.

I am enjoying learning WordPress. There is a feature in WordPress that is helping me to make sure I reference correctly throughout this blog post, the feature is ‘links’, if you click on any of the underlined or highlighted links in this post it will take you to the web sites of the people who I am referring to, which is a great feature both to promote the original authors and for your further development, enjoyment and learning. That really is progress towards overcoming plagiarism.

Is there truly anything new anyway? The personal development industry is heavily criticised for ‘ripping off’ biblical references and the ANON programmes, for drug and alcohol rehabilitation, all make reference to people finding GOD, which I translate to finding peace of mind through finding your own route to God rather than religion per se. Having faith in something outside yourself is challenging; in my truth, the key to peace of mind is having the faith in yourself to be yourself and ultimately to accept yourself.

When you can be OK with how bad you are you can let in how good you are ~ I heard this from a coach who was teaching people to not be afraid to fail when they are public speaking, fear of failure stops people practicing and practice makes perfect (yes I am cliché woman too!)

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We get what we focus on.

I was reading a great blog from Topher Morrison I quote:-

“I think one of the main reasons why some people never change despite how much they learn is because what they need to really get, can’t be taught by someone else; they’ve got to get it themselves. Unfortunately, that one thing they need to get, they push further away by their own behavior.

Here’s a perfect example. One of the biggest motivators for people taking self-help courses is because they want to achieve a level of financial success beyond what they have done in the past. The, “I wanna be rich” mentality. Inevitably, the person who wants to be rich can’t afford the program. Money is their biggest issue, as a result, they make it their biggest issue in life, and it creeps up everywhere. So they use that as the excuse for why they can’t go to the program, or buy the product – or for that matter, do anything they want to in life.

This type of person will never get it until they get over it. And here’s the irony… the information contained in the course won’t help them get over it. The only way they will get over it, is if they just get over it. In other words, the person who finally says, “okay, I’m no longer going to use, ‘I can’t afford it’ as an excuse. I’m going to find a way!” Those people that find a way inevitably get it… and they transform. Not because of what they learn in the course, but because of what they taught themselves in order to get the course.’’

Topher’s words reminded me of the simplicity of ‘just do it’ – Take action and then you will get the lesson, it also reminded me that we are all searching and have moments of feeling we need to change stuff, but change what exactly? Change to fit in? Change to belong? Change to be right? Change to just survive in this world? ~ The only constant is change and finding peace of mind is about self-acceptance and trusting and having faith in yourself and that there is a higher power, a universal guidance, which for me is about growth (learning) and giving back, knowing that when you practice kindness and give with loving intent, the universe will take care of you. As Topher says; the only way to ‘get over it’ is to take action. It is useful to keep an open mind and to continue to learn.

adapt to change to survive

I believe that we are spiritual beings, here to learn life lessons (being’s not doings) sometimes there is a time to just BE sometimes there is a time for action, to just DO.

”We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience” ~ Teilhard de Chardin.

Neuroplasticity has replaced the formerly-held position that the brain is a physiologically static organ, and explores how – and in which ways – the brain changes throughout life

“When you know better you do better.”― Maya Angelou

Self Actualization consists of 3 key things
1. Quiet confidence
2. Detachment from the opinion of others
3. Detachment from the fruits of our labour

Landmark Education ( invites you to redefine the very nature of what is possible, teaching an excellent distinction to create a possible way of BEing. This actually makes the doing easier, possibility because if you don’t already feel it then creating the possibility will have you notice and focus on the way you ideally want to BE in the world. For example I create the daily possibility of being Love, Courage and Fun and that way I look for moments to create those things; moments when I am loving, courageous and fun to be with. You can create any possible way to BE, that choice is always yours.

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Eckhart Tolle is not aligned with any particular religion or tradition, but excludes none. His profound yet simple and practical teachings have helped thousands of people find inner peace, healing and greater fulfillment in their lives. At the core of his teachings lies the transformation of individual and collective human consciousness – a global spiritual awakening.

I like his relaxed style and humour, in the below clip from Eckhart Tolle TV he answers a readers questions on career change, the reader has requested guidance and hope to overcome the challenges of finding a new job:-

Published on Apr 3, 2013 Eckhart Answers: Help me stay sane during a period of joblessness. Overview: Freedom from thought patterns open possibilities. 

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Eckhart is the author of The Power of Now, The key to becoming free of the egoic mind, with all its consequences, is to become deeply conscious of this present moment, or, as Tolle often calls it, “the Now.”

David Chalmers recently developed a thought experiment inspired by the movie The Matrix in which substance dualism could be true: Consider a computer simulation in which the bodies of the creatures are controlled by their minds and the minds remain strictly external to the simulation. The creatures can do all the science they want in the world, but they will never be able to figure out where their minds are, for they do not exist in their observable universe. This is a case of substance dualism with respect to computer simulation.

Please click on the Zen triangle below for a clear view of the diagram:


One way to think of zen is this: a total state of focus that incorporates a total togetherness of body and mind. Zen is a way of being. It also is a state of mind. Zen involves dropping illusion and seeing things without distortion created by your own thoughts.

‘Time and Tide wait for No Man’ which means no one is so powerful that he can stop the march of time. There are plenty of quotes about living in the present moment (the power of NOW) and why it is essential to well-being.

“The clock is running. Make the most of today. Time waits for no man. Yesterday is history. Tomorrow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That’s why it is called the present.” 

According to The Phrase Finder  The origin of ‘Time and Tide wait for No Man’ is uncertain, although it’s clear that the phrase is ancient and that it predates modern English. The earliest known record is from St. Marher, 1225: “And te tide and te time þat tu iboren were, schal beon iblescet.”

time is now

A Course In Miracles (ACIM) is widely distributed globally, forming the basis of a range of organized groups. The teachings of A Course in Miracles have been supported by commentators and authors such as Eckhart Tolle

In honesty: ‘You do not really want the world you see, for it has disappointed you since time began. The homes you built have never sheltered you. The roads you made have led you nowhere, and no city that you built has withstood the crumbling assault of time. And no promise of love has not ended in the bitterness of loss. Nothing you made but has the mark of death upon it. Hold it not dear, for it is old and tired and ready to return to dust even as you made it. This aching world has not the power to touch the living world at all. This is what Jesus reminds us of in the divine masterpiece’ ~ A Course in Miracles

Nothing real can be threatened.
Nothing unreal exists.
Herein lies the peace of God.

Copyright litigation

Original logo of FIP, later adopted by the FACIM

Beginning in June, 1996, and ending in April, 2004, a copyright lawsuit initiated by Penguin Books and FIP was brought against the Church of the Full Endeavor (also known as the ‘Endeavor Academy’) for their unlimited independent publication of substantial portions of A Course in Miracles. It was found that the contents of the FIP first edition, published from 1976 through 1992, are in the public domain. However, copyright in all of the changes introduced in the Second Edition remains intact, as does the copyright for the Text Preface, “Clarification of Terms” found at the end of the Manual for Teachers, and the two supplementary pamphlets, Psychotherapy and Song of Prayer, as well as Schucman’s poetry, The Gifts of God. The original unedited (urtext) manuscript of A Course in Miracles, which has been widely published on the internet, was obtained under false pretenses. This material has been copyrighted separately as The Unpublished Writings of Helen Schucman

In the book ‘A New Earth’ published in 2006, Eckhart Tolle shows how transcending our ego-based state of consciousness is not only essential to personal happiness, but also the key to ending conflict and suffering throughout the world.  Shattering modern ideas of ego and entitlement, self and society, Tolle lifts the veil of fear that has hung over humanity during this new millennium, and shines an illuminating light that leads to happiness and health. Erroneous identification with the egoic mind, is one of dangerous insanity. Yet humanity now has an opportunity to create a saner, more loving world. Gently, in very practical terms, Tolle leads us into a new consciousness where we will come to experience who we truly are and learn to live freely.


Byron Katie says there are three types of business in this world, yours, mine and the universes business and the universe rules as it’s the only business that can’t be controlled.  So if everyone is mindful of their own words and deeds, minded their own business, took responsibility for the things that are in their own control, things that they can positively influence and change then peace has a chance.

Tony Robbins in his 6 human needs distinctions illustrates the paradox of the human need for both certainty and variety. What we need to do is find that perfect BALANCE between these conflicting needs, for that is where true success and fulfillment lies. It comes down to perceived risk. Our level of happiness is commensurate with the amount of un-certainty we can comfortably stand (bear, take). This is my favorite Ted Talk from Tony

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Worship the God that works for you and worship yourself, I don’t mean narcissism, I mean you have to take care of yourself first or you won’t have anything to give to others. We have three free spiritual gifts they are; dreams, meditation and prayer.

Once you love yourself, you then have love to give; if you want unconditional love get a Dog (God spelt backwards).

God is Love and Love is God so Love is a religion worth practicing.

“Love grows by giving. The love we give away is the only love we keep. The only way to retain love is to give it away.” ~ Elbert Hubbard.

The key to happiness is finding a balance and I aim to bring a balanced perspective quoting various authors and things that I have found useful in my studies and in my passion for continued personal and professional development. Growth and learning new things leads to fulfilment.

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To end on a positive and practical note I have been quoting the distinctions from a book called The Four Agreements to great effect, my clients like the simplicity and easy to understand messages. In The Four Agreements author Don Miguel Ruiz reveals the source of self-limiting beliefs that rob us of joy and create needless suffering. Based on ancient Toltec wisdom, the Four Agreements offer a powerful code of conduct that can rapidly transform our lives to a new experience of freedom, true happiness, and love.

The Four Agreements: Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (Toltec Wisdom)

agreement 1

Be impeccable with your word – Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

agreement 2

Don’t take anything personally – Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

agreement 3

Don’t make assumptions – Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

agreement 4

Always do your best – Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

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Tony Robbins states growth and contribution (giving) are spiritual needs. So in my sharing and blogging I am fulfilling my spiritual needs and I am happy to credit those who have inspired me, but if I forget then please let me know and I will be happy to credit the source.

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Love Song & Smiles Rose x ♫♥♪¨¯`♥ ¸.♫♥♪¨¯`♥ ¸.♫♥♪¨¯`♥

PS. It is Tony Robbins who says ‘WHEN WOULD NOW be a good time to…..’ My Shaman teacher taught me about the spiritual gifts, I wonder what paradigm of meaning you created in your mind about me just by my telling you those authors’ names?



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