How to discover your dream job

Do you live to work or work to live? neither is right or wrong, we get what we focus on.

  • Maybe you’re a people-pleaser, who took a job to make your parents proud?
  • Maybe you’re a status-chaser, and you’ve spent your career pursuing the next prestigious award or promotion?
  • Maybe you’re a security-seeker, who will put up with just about anything as long as you never feel like what you have is at risk?

“Life is too short to be in a job you don’t love or to be unhappily unemployed.” – Anthony Gold

A third of workers are dissatisfied with their jobs and the problem is worse for people midway through their careers. A poll of 45,000 staff found that 67% of 18-24 year olds were satisfied but this dipped to 57% for workers aged 35-44.  Overall the UK has the highest proportion of unhappy staff in Europe. Recruitment agency Randstat said “those who are midway through a career can have anxiety they aren’t fulfilling their potential ”

“Of course there is no formula for success except perhaps an unconditional acceptance of life and what it brings.” – Arthur Rubinstein


The only thing we have control over in life is our Attitude.

“You’re responsible for finding out what you are good at; then throwing your whole heart into it, without reservation or hold-back. Only when you discover what you really enjoy doing and then commit yourself to it wholeheartedly do you begin to feel really alive and fully engaged in life” – Brian Tracy

Venn diagram from the facebook page of Brian Tracy

Your “dream job” is aligned to 6 human needs

6 human needs

  • Certainty: Incorporates a comfortable work environment (whatever that means to you) and is financially rewarding.
  • Variety: The work is intellectually stimulating and challenging. Do you thrive on Variety? Would you like to be a “portfolio worker”? this means doing several jobs simultaneously, often freelance.
    Leonardo da Vinci, would paint one day, then do some mechanical engineering, followed by a few anatomy experiments on the weekend. Charles Handy says being a portfolio worker is a good way of spreading risk in an insecure job market, and is made possible by the rise of opportunities for flexible work.
  • Connection: The people, culture and environment are in sync with your values. You like and enjoy the company of your colleagues, collaborators and customers.
  • Significance: It meets the ego’s need for status. You feel important, and you believe that your contribution matters.
  • Growth: Has plenty of growth potential (not just in title, but in true learning experiences).
    “Any intelligent person can learn the hard skills. It is the soft ones like self-awareness, initiative, and empathy that represent the big challenges toward substantial growth.” –
  • Contribution: It involves something you are passionate about – often tied to “purpose” in your life. You want to give your time and energy, paid or unpaid.
    “You can have everything in life you want, if you will just help enough other people get what they want.” – Zig Ziglar

How to discover your dream job

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“Don’t (just) ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”― Howard Thurman

“Where the needs of the world and your talents cross, there lies your vocation.” – Aristotle (2,500 years ago)

1. Start by being grateful for the things, skills and qualities that you already have.

gratitude always something

A gratitude jar is a great daily habit: click here

Explore career options with a positive, thankful frame of mind.

Being grateful puts you in a good frame of mind to dream big, to fully explore.

Being upbeat will help you will discover your hearts desires.

2. Ask yourself these questions:

  1. If I could choose one friend to trade jobs with, I’d choose ____________, because ____________.
  2. I’ve always wondered what it would be like to do ____________. It’s interesting to me because ____________.
  3. If I had the right education or skill set, I’d definitely try ____________, because ____________.
  4. If I had to go back to school tomorrow, I’d major in ____________, because ____________.
  5. My co-workers and friends always say I’m great at ____________, because ____________.
  6. The thing I love most about my current job is ____________, because ____________.
  7. If my boss would let me, I’d do more of ____________, because ____________.
  8. If I had a free Saturday that had to be spent “working” on something, I’d choose ____________, because ____________.
  9. When I retire, I want to be known for ____________, because ____________.

3. Define your dream job

The value of anything that you obtain or accomplish can be determined by how much of your time, or your life, that you spent to acquire it.

Deciding what you want to do, what you can do well, and what can give you the highest rewards for your efforts is the key to getting the best out of yourself.  Many people tell me how unfulfilled they are in their work but they have never taken the time to define exactly what is important to them.

Discover YOUR Dream Job in 45 Minutes Pdf Worksheet – by Anthony Gold
download it and print it out. In this version, you will be filling it out by writing directly on the form.

confluence-diagramSkills – What are you very good at?

Passions – What do you love to do?

Market Needs – In what areas will the market pay handsomely for?


3.1. Identify Your Wants

List the things you want – and for each of them, think about why you want it.
What is the meaning behind the want?

There are no wrong answers. If money is one of the items, list it. But also consider what it is that you’d like to experience with the money. Perhaps it’s a sense of achievement, or maybe peace of mind?

The key with this exercise is to be honest with yourself. There is no need to pretend you aren’t human or don’t have human desires. Most of us have healthy egos. It does no good trying to repress or deny that. But it can do a world of good to start looking at the why’s behind the things we want. You won’t be sharing this list with anyone, so go ahead and let it all hang out.

Find the “why” behind each “want”

Why? – A big enough reason “why” will give you the motive (motive in motivation) to take action.

Does your happiness lie in experiences or in material possessions?

Emotion drives action. (emotion – energy in motion)
People buy things for emotional reasons then justify their purchases with logic.

3.2. Identify where you are Great

What things do people thank you for?
Everyone has something that they do better than everyone else, sometimes it is hard for us to see our own talents, ask these questions to trusted friends:

  • In what areas would you consider me to be an expert or at least very good?
  • In which areas do you see me as the “go-to” person?
  • If you were building a team where I would be your top-pick, what would be the focus area?

Life can only be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards.

What do you already spend time creating? Your vocation may lie in a hobby, in any event, it is good to find THREE hobbies:

  1. One to make you money
  2. One to keep you in shape
  3. One to be creative.

3.3. Identify what You Love Doing

Key Question: What would you Love to do that someone else would Love to give you money for?

You may not have the skills right now; but you know deep down that you are passionate enough to gain the skills, and that someone else would value your input enough to pay you for those skills in the longer term.

passion purpose

Tapping in to your passions is one of the most fun exercises you can complete. What are all the things you greatly enjoy doing? Don’t hold back – remember this is private – just write them all down.

Some questions to help with this exercise:

  • What have been some of your greatest moments of happiness and fulfillment?
  • What activities do you greatly enjoy and find the most fulfilling in your professional life

If you think back over the past year, what were you doing in those instances when you were “in the zone” and could have gone 24 hours without sleep?
If you are a college grad, why did you choose your particular field of study?
It’s OK to list things that are not professional. e.g. hobbies – The key here is to get everything out on the table so that you can begin to craft the ideal role(s) where you will be most fulfilled.

Ask yourself: If money and time was no object – what would I do?
Write down as many things as you want, from hobbies, to careers, to free time and reading – then ask yourself – is there any common theme here between all of these things? (or some of these things).

Select a few of the most interesting things you would like as a career and then research these careers, speak to everyone you know who is already working in these fields, keep a journal, notice what shows up – we get what we focus on.

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“If you want to be successful, you must respect one rule. Never lie to YOURSELF.” – Paulo Coelho

Wake up every day loving what you do – no need to focus on what your friends or family expect of you, take a tip from  Tony Robbins: ‘Don’t ‘should‘ all over yourself’ – instead define what your own heart wants.

It could simply mean doing things that make your heart smile, every single day. Even Mondays. How would that feel?

Top 10 Tips for a Rewarding Career everyone you meet will be struggling to do the best they can – be kind to yourself and others
By Anthony Gold | Career GrowthPersonal Growth

Ask yourself what is the work you can’t NOT do: For inspiration watch this:

How to find and do work you love | Scott Dinsmore


“Everything we love we lose when we lose the Love.” – Wayne Dyer

Having trouble identifying your dream job? 

dream awake doing best

When listing the things you love to do, think of things that absorb you, when you lose all track of time, that is when you are in flow, master those things, they are the topics to pick to learn more about.

Trust, look inwards (mediate if you wish, a long walk in nature works just as well) and opportunities to learn and to gain mastery will unfold in their own good time.

I’d bet that you have already discarded at least five possible dream careers.

Maybe your sense of responsibility has kicked in, and you haven’t even started to explore your dreams.

sense and non sense

Challenge these thoughts:

How would I ever get paid for that?

That’s not going to pay my bills.

That’s a hobby, not a job.

Who would take me seriously?


Challenge fear thinking

This passage is commonly mis-attributed to Nelson Mandela’s 1994 Inaugural Address. It actually comes from the book ‘A Return To Love’ (1992) by Marianne Williamson

“…Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.

We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?

Actually, who are you not to be?

You are a child of God.

Your playing small does not serve the world.

There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We are all meant to shine, as children do.

We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.

It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.

And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

feelings choice

4. Sometimes it is easier to notice what we do NOT want

Write down what jobs you don’t want – then reverse it…..think of its polar opposite.
Take your CV and make a list of every task you have ever done at every company, every job role; right back to your paper round! Put two columns next to each task – 1/Loved it 2/ Hated it – record yes or no
Did you love the task at one company and not another?
This helps to get clear on whether it was the company/culture/people or the nature of the work.
peaceful heart

5. Try NEW things:

If you always do what you always did, you will always get what you always got.

Push your boundaries. Do what you are afraid of – Life begins at the end of your comfort zone.

‘You cannot discover new oceans unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.’ – Andre Gide.

dont wait

6. Clarity comes from action.

Instead of thinking then acting, act first and reflect later by trying out jobs in the real world.

‘The magic happens in taking action.’ – William Whitecloud

‘Ideas are useless unless used.’ – T. Levitt.

Plans are made to be living documents, serving as a compass. Be flexible and be willing to change tack as life’s circumstances dictate.

Stay focused on what truly inspires you, but also be quick to capitalise on any opportunity that comes along.

Innovation is the ability to convert ideas into invoices. – L. Duncan

‘Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.’ – Dale Carnegie.

who you are

7. What do you value?

Try an ethical career, focused on values and issues that matter to you, which also allows you to do what you’re really good at.

Give back. Identify a cause. Volunteer. Help others. You will find that you receive much more than you give.

Who cares if there is any money in it? Life’s too short and there is a whole universe out there to explore.

Look at how you can turn one of your passions into a revenue stream. You can make money out of anything. Investigate who does it well and how they have done it and copy the formula. Then you will be happy to go to “work”. It may take time but you’ll get there.

This is your life…… no one is coming to do it for you.

Material wealth is all well and good, but I know plenty of lonely wealthy people, striving so much and living a life in the fast lane and on the edge, stressed out they may alienate friends and family and end up with no one to share their wealth with.

One of my saddest moments was winning a bottle of bubbly……. then remembering I did not have a partner to share it with!

Success: Unconditional acceptance of life….a learn-able skill

“You can learn to succeed at anything. If you want to be a great golfer, you can learn how to do it. If you want to be a great piano player, you can learn how to do it. If you want to be truly happy, you can learn how to do it. If you want to be rich, you can learn how to do it. It doesn’t matter where you are right now. It doesn’t matter where you’re starting from.  What matters is that you are willing to learn.”~ T. Harv Eker

8. Are you motivated to change ?

Motivation 4 kinds

Explore your motive in motivation – for a detailed look at motivation click here and read this note

no excuses

‘The antidote to vulnerability and the way through it is deep self-acceptance and self-love’ – Nick Williams

‘Everything is possible. The impossible just takes longer.’ – Dan Brown

We over estimate what we can achieve in a year and underestimate what can be achieved in a decade.

Once you have defined a dream job – turn it into a SMART goal and take small daily actions towards that goal.

Getting a job to pay the bills, sometimes called a day job (I call it a ‘bread and butter’ money job) or to fund further study towards your dream job, is then part of the plan and it makes even mundane bread and butter money job or even your current job bearable, as you know you are working towards your dream… how ever long that takes.
Examples of a day/bread and butter job are the woman who works as a waitress (her day job) while she tries to become an actress, and the professional athlete who works as a laborer in the off season because he is currently only able to make the roster of a semi-professional team.

Success is a journey not a destination. – Ben Sweetland

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How to find and do work you love | Scott Dinsmore
Scott Dinsmore’s mission was to change the world by helping people find what excites them and build a career around the work only they are capable of doing. He was a career change strategist whose demoralizing experience at a Fortune 500 job launched his quest to understand why 80% of adults hate the work they do, and more importantly, to identify what the other 20% were doing differently.
His research led to experiences with thousands of employees and entrepreneurs from 158 countries. Scott distilled the results down to his Passionate Work Framework – three surprisingly simple practices for finding and doing work you love, that all happen to be completely within our control.
Career tools available free to the public at

Scott Dinsmore sadly passed away after being hit by falling rocks while nearing the summit of Mount Kilimanjaro
Scott was out there living his dream and truly lived each day without regret.

“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you come alive, and then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.” – Howard Thurman

Next steps

What’s the smallest thing I can do right now that will make the biggest positive impact on my situation (as it is right now)?

  1. The first place to look is your current company: What career prospects or progression routes are there with your current employer?
  2. Fund further study: Get a second job or a ‘bread and butter’ money job, this becomes bearable as you know you are doing this (the mundane) because you are working towards your dream job.
  3. Find someone at the top of your chosen new field and spend time with them, interview them, find out how they did it, how they got the job, broke into the sector, you will be surprised how successful people will be flattered you asked.
  4. We become the average of the 5 people we spend most time with – Are you spending time with people who will hold you to a higher standard?, those who will encourage, stretch and challenge you to be, do and live your dreams?
  5. The respect you have for others and how you treat them is the foundation of your reputation. – Maintain integrity in everything you do.
  6. Being a life-long learner will prepare you for any change in circumstances – Stay smart, current and relevant.
  7. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. – Ask for help.
  8. Identify a mentor or a life coach. – Meet regularly and take advantage of their counsel.

dream come true

Wishing you a HAPPY NEW YEAR

Love & Smiles Rose x
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